It is no secret that work on building a family is similar to jewelry. It is very easy to make a mistake, but how to fix it and fix everything turns out to be, at times, incredibly difficult. Marital conflict is inevitable. If the spouses are aimed at preserving the marriage and are ready to hear each other, compromising, then there is nothing wrong with temporary misunderstanding. Much worse, when quarrels arise over the smallest occasion, in the end one of the spouses, or both of them give up, not trying to save the marriage. What destroys the relationship, swiftly directing them to divorce?
For example, one of the spouses considers his half property and intrusively interferes with his personal space.
Tip: Stop pestering your spouse with jealousy and perpetual interrogation. Do not humiliate by checking the contents of pockets, revision of calls and messages in the phone. It is necessary to develop a line of conduct in which a man will consider that he has the right to friends, a hobby, and at the same time unobtrusively control the situation.
You need to learn to trust your spouse: jealousy is a manifestation of their own inferiority. Suppose that after his assurances about the delay in work, you will be convinced once again that this is what it is, than to insult him every day with his distrust.
Tip: Be discreet, do not hysterics. After all, men do not like this, and some even get lost in the situation.
Communicate more in your free time. Mutual interest and the penetration of emotional unrest, aspirations, professional interests creates a solid foundation of relations.
Sometimes deceived expectations lead to conflicts. Some imagine the future life as endless fun and relaxation, bathing in flowers and gifts. When this delusion disappears, there comes disappointment and, accordingly, quarrels.
Equally important is the financial side of marriage. Lack of money or credit bondage provoke reproaches about insolvency, inability to provide for a family. Spouses begin to reproach each other for unreasonable waste of money, in the absence of savings. Imagine how this affects the marriage is not difficult.
Greed sometimes manifests itself not only in the material question. Do not skimp on the manifestation of feelings, love must be given in full, and not in return for something. One should not reckon who gave more presents, who did less work.
Passport stamp does not mean restriction of spouse’s freedom. Trite, but everyone has the right to make independent choices and decisions, even if it seems to you that they are absolutely wrong.
Tip: accept the decision of the spouse as the right of personal freedom. Marriage should not be a trap restricting freedom and the possibility of self-realization.
No need to try to alter the spouse, believe me, this has not been possible for anyone. Without wasting energy on the unsuccessful re-education of the husband, try to direct your strength and enthusiasm to understand and love his shortcomings.
